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The Problem with falling in Love

February 14, 2013 Leave a comment

Our parents were incredibly naive about love.

Xenocrates

How it typically begins always makes the inevitability of how it ends so much more perplexing and painful. Image ­© Copyright 2012 Tomasz Wagner, Mananetwork Wedding Photography. Used with permission.

There was once a person you would have moved heaven and earth for. He or she was all sorts of amazing.  Your only problem with this person is that all of the wonderful things that you once loved about them have inexplicably evaporated. You want to know something interesting? The factors that caused the evaporation were always there when you first met. It’s just as you got to know them better, they became harder to ignore. It’s like the intensity of the good things you loved about them have swapped places with the bad things. Familiar?

Then we need to talk.

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The Impending Extinction of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

January 17, 2012 1 comment

Marriage is as relevant today as the horse drawn carriage.

Xenocrates

Marriage via horse drawn carriageHow convenient.

The biggest problem with the institution of marriage likely has very little to do with what we’re doing wrong with marriage as opposed to marriage itself. If you’re having marital problems, you may want to consider the fact that marriage is fairly antiquated. In this post, I will cover the remaining five of the top ten issues with the popular concept of marriage and why they are now a recurring cause of failure in marital relationships as societies continue to evolve.

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The Impending Extinction of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

January 15, 2012 Leave a comment

Everyone falls in love with wedding days, but few of us fall in love with marriage.

 

Xenocrates

Wedding Rings

Marriage is dying. Studies show that marriage is on the decline all over the world. More and more people are opting out of being married. The number of people who are married in the most developed societies around the world are at an all time low. But as you’ll note from the above linked article, this is not a cyclical trend. Marriage has been on a steady decline since the 1950’s. What gives? I explore this phenomenon in this post about the slow death of love.

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The Intelligence Bottleneck

June 14, 2010 2 comments

“While our minds may have evolved, our bodies have not.”

Xenocrates

I recently discovered that the reason why moths fly into an open flame is because they were engineered by nature to navigate by night using the light of the moon. However, when men came around and invented fire, it messed with the moth’s navigation system – which 70,000 years later, has not yet been upgraded by natural evolution. The same problem also affects humans.

It is why men are capable of being in love with more than one woman, why several women are mutually inclined to gravitate towards one man, why a teen girl who knows about unwanted pregnancy would still have unprotected sex, and why boys aware of the outcome of truancy will still drop out of school.

We’re making these observations not because they’re strange, but because our society has made them seem that way after many centuries of cognitive evolution. The vast disparity between intellect and nature that results creates what I would like to call an Intelligence Bottleneck. This is a perfectly good explanation for some of the inexplicably stupid things rational humans still do.

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Top 10 Strangest Things Women Do

May 22, 2010 12 comments

“Women care more about how they feel than how they think.”

Xenocrates

Yeah, I know doggie. There’s something rather odd about this gender.

Women are simultaneously the source of my greatest joy and pain. While I always appreciate the love they perniciously bestow, there are times they do things which defy every sense of reason that any rational human male has the capacity to fathom. This post covers what I think are ten of the worst of them.

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What Women Really Want

December 17, 2009 13 comments

“What a woman really wants is rarely congruous with what she really needs.”

Xenocrates

I have heard many conversations between men and women debating what women really want. I’ve often found such conversations to be just as entertaining as they were meaningless, largely because women rarely know themselves well enough to know what they want, let alone what they need.

However, I believe that I have inadvertently discovered what women really want. If you’re a man, you may find this interesting. If you’re a woman, I can tell you right now that your sense of denial will probably kick in before you get to the end of this post (if it hasn’t already). I’m prepared for you. So let’s talk…
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Why Men Cheat

September 9, 2009 10 comments

“It is unnatural for any one man to sexually desire only one woman.”

Xenocrates

cheating-man

Why do men cheat? A lot of women have pondered on this question with great frustration. The answer however is so profoundly simple that I suspect the reason many have failed to appreciate the utter simplicity of it is largely because they are needlessly looking for an answer much deeper than the obvious. However, science shows that the simplest answers usually suffice.

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