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The Problem with falling in Love

February 14, 2013 Leave a comment

Our parents were incredibly naive about love.

Xenocrates

How it typically begins always makes the inevitability of how it ends so much more perplexing and painful. Image ­© Copyright 2012 Tomasz Wagner, Mananetwork Wedding Photography. Used with permission.

There was once a person you would have moved heaven and earth for. He or she was all sorts of amazing.  Your only problem with this person is that all of the wonderful things that you once loved about them have inexplicably evaporated. You want to know something interesting? The factors that caused the evaporation were always there when you first met. It’s just as you got to know them better, they became harder to ignore. It’s like the intensity of the good things you loved about them have swapped places with the bad things. Familiar?

Then we need to talk.

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The Impending Extinction of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

January 17, 2012 1 comment

Marriage is as relevant today as the horse drawn carriage.

Xenocrates

Marriage via horse drawn carriageHow convenient.

The biggest problem with the institution of marriage likely has very little to do with what we’re doing wrong with marriage as opposed to marriage itself. If you’re having marital problems, you may want to consider the fact that marriage is fairly antiquated. In this post, I will cover the remaining five of the top ten issues with the popular concept of marriage and why they are now a recurring cause of failure in marital relationships as societies continue to evolve.

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The Impending Extinction of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

January 15, 2012 Leave a comment

Everyone falls in love with wedding days, but few of us fall in love with marriage.

 

Xenocrates

Wedding Rings

Marriage is dying. Studies show that marriage is on the decline all over the world. More and more people are opting out of being married. The number of people who are married in the most developed societies around the world are at an all time low. But as you’ll note from the above linked article, this is not a cyclical trend. Marriage has been on a steady decline since the 1950’s. What gives? I explore this phenomenon in this post about the slow death of love.

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Relationship Addiction (Part 2 of 2) — Why you shouldn’t get married

August 28, 2011 2 comments

Some people desire marriage for all the same reasons dogs chase cars.

Xenocrates

A happily married couple — as delightful as this looks, marriage is not for everyone.

One of the biggest lies propagated in western society is that everyone should be in love with somebody and that love is universally accessible. Nobody tells you however that love has a set of very specific requirements. Some people do not have these qualities in their personality by default and will probably never develop them. Some people should stay single. They are just not mature enough to identify themselves—and that’s precisely where this post comes in.

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Relationship Addiction (Part 1 of 2) — Love by any means

August 22, 2011 1 comment

Settling for someone less than you deserve makes for two unhappy people instead of one.

Xenocrates

Most people want to get to this state. The trouble is, some people don’t care how.

I’ve heard many people complain about their unsatisfactory relationships, only to see them break up and start another one just like it. What’s the reasoning for this? Wouldn’t it make more sense to learn from the past? As it turns out, that is not the problem. Most people would much rather to be in a relationship than be in love. They are relationship addicts — slaves to the want of being desired. This addiction has now reached pandemic proportions.

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The Truth About Happiness (2 of 3)

June 19, 2011 Leave a comment

Defining your happiness on the success of romance is not very different from doing so based on the availability of cocaine.

Xenocrates

Lovers in Bed

Love, religion and freedom are often regarded as the hallmarks of true happiness. If that were true, then why is it that there are so many people in love who are unhappy? Why are so many religions experiencing such attrition in young people? Why is it that nations that have overthrown their oppressive governments aren’t exactly happy with their hard won freedom?

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Love is a Drug

February 12, 2011 4 comments

Love is a powerful narcotic with devastatingly addictive properties.

Xenocrates

Love and Other Drugs (2010)

Have you ever been in love? Are you in love right now? What’s the craziest thing you wouldn’t do for the person you love? If you can think of more than three of them, then you probably aren’t in love. You are probably experiencing a deep emotional affection heavily tempered by rationality. That’s the right place to be, because when you’re in love with someone, it is easier to have died a thousand deaths than to let go of that warm, infuriatingly intoxicating feeling.

Whatever you do, don’t fall in love before you read this.

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