Some people desire marriage for all the same reasons dogs chase cars.
A happily married couple — as delightful as this looks, marriage is not for everyone.
One of the biggest lies propagated in western society is that everyone should be in love with somebody and that love is universally accessible. Nobody tells you however that love has a set of very specific requirements. Some people do not have these qualities in their personality by default and will probably never develop them. Some people should stay single. They are just not mature enough to identify themselves—and that’s precisely where this post comes in.
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Men always had what they really wanted. Thus the question is intrinsically irrelevant.
Every time I hear a woman exclaim that she can’t figure out men, I laugh really hard. Why? Because there’s positively nothing to figure out about men. Men are rarely sophisticated animals – even the ones with a genius level IQ. Men are more animal than even we are willing to admit. That’s why I had not spent any time writing a post entitled “What Men Really Want” – well, not until now.
Please be advised; this will be very short.
“While our minds may have evolved, our bodies have not.”
I recently discovered that the reason why moths fly into an open flame is because they were engineered by nature to navigate by night using the light of the moon. However, when men came around and invented fire, it messed with the moth’s navigation system – which 70,000 years later, has not yet been upgraded by natural evolution. The same problem also affects humans.
It is why men are capable of being in love with more than one woman, why several women are mutually inclined to gravitate towards one man, why a teen girl who knows about unwanted pregnancy would still have unprotected sex, and why boys aware of the outcome of truancy will still drop out of school.
We’re making these observations not because they’re strange, but because our society has made them seem that way after many centuries of cognitive evolution. The vast disparity between intellect and nature that results creates what I would like to call an Intelligence Bottleneck. This is a perfectly good explanation for some of the inexplicably stupid things rational humans still do.
“What a woman really wants is rarely congruous with what she really needs.”
I have heard many conversations between men and women debating what women really want. I’ve often found such conversations to be just as entertaining as they were meaningless, largely because women rarely know themselves well enough to know what they want, let alone what they need.
However, I believe that I have inadvertently discovered what women really want. If you’re a man, you may find this interesting. If you’re a woman, I can tell you right now that your sense of denial will probably kick in before you get to the end of this post (if it hasn’t already). I’m prepared for you. So let’s talk…
“While we are young, lust is indistinguishable from love.”
A girlfriend of mine once said that young people love with their eyes and old people with their hearts. However, what she doesn’t realise is that she has just highlighted the fact that romance is inherently rife with a certain type of hypocrisy that has completely maligned the way we understand true love.
“It is unnatural for any one man to sexually desire only one woman.”
Why do men cheat? A lot of women have pondered on this question with great frustration. The answer however is so profoundly simple that I suspect the reason many have failed to appreciate the utter simplicity of it is largely because they are needlessly looking for an answer much deeper than the obvious. However, science shows that the simplest answers usually suffice.
“Women who desire to become equal with men become less valuable as women.”
I, the fat lady, do hereby declare that I have sung. Now where’s my lighter?
If all the women in the world were to be truly liberated, in the sense that they were all educated at the same level as their male counterparts, given truly equal opportunities to occupy all the same positions that men currently do, what do you think will happen to our capacity to continue our existence?