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Relationship Addiction (Part 2 of 2) — Why you shouldn’t get married
Some people desire marriage for all the same reasons dogs chase cars.
— Xenocrates
A happily married couple — as delightful as this looks, marriage is not for everyone.
One of the biggest lies propagated in western society is that everyone should be in love with somebody and that love is universally accessible. Nobody tells you however that love has a set of very specific requirements. Some people do not have these qualities in their personality by default and will probably never develop them. Some people should stay single. They are just not mature enough to identify themselves—and that’s precisely where this post comes in.
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Relationship Addiction (Part 1 of 2) — Love by any means
Settling for someone less than you deserve makes for two unhappy people instead of one.
— Xenocrates
Most people want to get to this state. The trouble is, some people don’t care how.
I’ve heard many people complain about their unsatisfactory relationships, only to see them break up and start another one just like it. What’s the reasoning for this? Wouldn’t it make more sense to learn from the past? As it turns out, that is not the problem. Most people would much rather to be in a relationship than be in love. They are relationship addicts — slaves to the want of being desired. This addiction has now reached pandemic proportions.
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Love is a Drug
Love is a powerful narcotic with devastatingly addictive properties.
– Xenocrates
Have you ever been in love? Are you in love right now? What’s the craziest thing you wouldn’t do for the person you love? If you can think of more than three of them, then you probably aren’t in love. You are probably experiencing a deep emotional affection heavily tempered by rationality. That’s the right place to be, because when you’re in love with someone, it is easier to have died a thousand deaths than to let go of that warm, infuriatingly intoxicating feeling.
Whatever you do, don’t fall in love before you read this.
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The Love Hypocrisy
“While we are young, lust is indistinguishable from love.”
– Xenocrates
A girlfriend of mine once said that young people love with their eyes and old people with their hearts. However, what she doesn’t realise is that she has just highlighted the fact that romance is inherently rife with a certain type of hypocrisy that has completely maligned the way we understand true love.
The Price of Female Companionship
“As every woman fetches a price, it should come as no surprise that men treat them like assets to be counted and valued.”
– Xenocrates
Do men ALWAYS buy sex? This is certainly worth contemplation.
In 2006, I had a most enlightening conversation with a young woman who wasn’t what you’d call one of the sharpest knives in drawer. Needless to say, the profundity of what came out of her mouth stumped me for several weeks. Yes, it was that earth shattering at the time. This is what she said:
“All men buy sex. The men who get married pay the most, while the patrons of prostitution pay the least.”
Needless to say, I was appalled. Surely this lass who wasn’t necessarily as smart as she was pretty merely stumbled upon this epiphany through someone else’s cognition. I hadn’t decided to give it further contemplation then until a very recent experience with another woman. Now I fear that she may have been right. No wonder many men are so sexist.
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