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Relationship Addiction (Part 2 of 2) — Why you shouldn’t get married

August 28, 2011 2 comments

Some people desire marriage for all the same reasons dogs chase cars.

Xenocrates

A happily married couple — as delightful as this looks, marriage is not for everyone.

One of the biggest lies propagated in western society is that everyone should be in love with somebody and that love is universally accessible. Nobody tells you however that love has a set of very specific requirements. Some people do not have these qualities in their personality by default and will probably never develop them. Some people should stay single. They are just not mature enough to identify themselves—and that’s precisely where this post comes in.

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Relationship Addiction (Part 1 of 2) — Love by any means

August 22, 2011 1 comment

Settling for someone less than you deserve makes for two unhappy people instead of one.

Xenocrates

Most people want to get to this state. The trouble is, some people don’t care how.

I’ve heard many people complain about their unsatisfactory relationships, only to see them break up and start another one just like it. What’s the reasoning for this? Wouldn’t it make more sense to learn from the past? As it turns out, that is not the problem. Most people would much rather to be in a relationship than be in love. They are relationship addicts — slaves to the want of being desired. This addiction has now reached pandemic proportions.

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Love is a Drug

February 12, 2011 4 comments

Love is a powerful narcotic with devastatingly addictive properties.

Xenocrates

Love and Other Drugs (2010)

Have you ever been in love? Are you in love right now? What’s the craziest thing you wouldn’t do for the person you love? If you can think of more than three of them, then you probably aren’t in love. You are probably experiencing a deep emotional affection heavily tempered by rationality. That’s the right place to be, because when you’re in love with someone, it is easier to have died a thousand deaths than to let go of that warm, infuriatingly intoxicating feeling.

Whatever you do, don’t fall in love before you read this.

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The Love Hypocrisy

October 31, 2009 8 comments

“While we are young, lust is indistinguishable from love.”

Xenocrates

Lost in each other's eyes

A girlfriend of mine once said that young people love with their eyes and old people with their hearts. However, what she doesn’t realise is that she has just highlighted the fact that romance is inherently rife with a certain type of hypocrisy that has completely maligned the way we understand true love.

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The Price of Female Companionship

September 25, 2009 18 comments

“As every woman fetches a price, it should come as no surprise that men treat them like assets to be counted and valued.”

Xenocrates

Do men ALWAYS buy sex?

Do men ALWAYS buy sex? This is certainly worth contemplation.

In 2006, I had a most enlightening conversation with a young woman who wasn’t what you’d call one of the sharpest knives in drawer. Needless to say, the profundity of what came out of her mouth stumped me for several weeks. Yes, it was that earth shattering at the time. This is what she said:

All men buy sex. The men who get married pay the most, while the patrons of prostitution pay the least.

Needless to say, I was appalled. Surely this lass who wasn’t necessarily as smart as she was pretty merely stumbled upon this epiphany through someone else’s cognition. I hadn’t decided to give it further contemplation then until a very recent experience with another woman. Now I fear that she may have been right. No wonder many men are so sexist.

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Epiphanies Volume 4 – Lessons Learned in 2008

December 27, 2008 5 comments

Whenever you lose, whatever you lose, however you lose, never lose the lesson.”

Xenocrates

What have I learned?For me, the year of 2008 was filled with great learning experiences. Personally, I think I gained several more points than usual in my cognitive development than I normally would – perhaps the greatest since 2003 when I had my last great evolutionary leap in cognition. This post lists the top 100 of the most important things that I have learned this year. For ease of reading, I have sub-divided these equally into five distinct categories each written as tersely elegant aphorisms in bullet form notation. Depending on your life experience, some of these you will have already known. Others, you may not. Some may seem familiar to you as great minds ultimately come to the same conclusion. Either way, irrespective of our individuality, I believe at least some of these aphorisms will be as much an eye opener for you as they were for me. As far as I know, all of these epiphanies are my own original thoughts. Enjoy: Read more…

The Stop Gap Lover

December 23, 2008 9 comments

“Every single woman has at least three boyfriends – one for each key feminine desire.”

Xenocrates

Mr. Sex Me, Love Me & Provide for me interchange roles as stop gap lovers

Gentlemen, does your girlfriend have a habit of discussing your relationship problems with other dudes? What about girls who insist on having a gay friend? Have you ever noticed your girlfriend or wife spending hours on the phone with some bloke you know she would never sleep with, but it perplexes you anyway? Have you ever noticed that your girlfriend keep a scrawny or overweight, unattractive geek around who always tries to play hero when you exercise your God-given rights to act like a jerk when the game is on or when your boys come over?

Ladies, have you ever wondered why some guys never introduce you to their friends? Have you ever wondered why he only comes over for sex, tv and gifts, but never invites you out to party with him, has never asked you out on a “real” date, or is not interested in meeting your family or friends? What about guys who are always “hiding” when they’re having sexual relations with you? What about those guys who never call after you’ve borne your soul out to them telling them how you feel or after you’ve given them the best sex ever? Do you ever wonder why you’ve had so many great flings, but no real relationships? Are you tired of being some guys’ secret lover?

If you have had any of these concerns, then read on. Herein lies an eye opener for all of you. This article will explain everything. 😉

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